How does the desire for control and domination

Taking into account all that we have just said about the impact of the hand, palm up or down, let's analyze the handshake.
In Roman times, the noble Romans greeted each other with a kind of modern armwrestling in a standing position. If one of the men was stronger than the other, his hand was on top. We will call this position - the hand on top.
Suppose you just met a man and greeted him with a handshake. At this time, you can feel the attitude of the interlocutor to yourself and draw certain conclusions.

1. Dominance: “He is trying to gain control over me. I should be careful. ”
2. Submission: “I can control this person. He will do what I want. ”
3. Equality: "With such a person I feel free and easy."

Such signals are sent and received unconsciously, but immediately influence the outcome of the meeting. In the 70s, we fixed the impact of a handshake on relationships between people and began to teach appropriate skills in our seminars. A little practice - and you can radically change the attitude of people towards themselves.
Dominance is transmitted by turning your hand (see the picture of a striped sleeve) so that the palm is turned down during the handshake. The palm does not necessarily have to be turned strictly down, but at the same time your hand is still on top. Thus, you show the person you are seeking to gain control over the situation.
Establishing control
We surveyed 350 successful managers of large enterprises (89% of them were men) and found that almost all of them were the first to initiate a handshake. 88% of men and 31% of women held their hand in a dominant manner. Power and control were of less importance for women, so only every third business woman had her hand at the top of the handshake. We also found that some women intentionally shake hands with men rather timidly to imitate some semblance of humility. Thus, they emphasized their femininity and made it clear that the desire to dominate them is alien. However, in a business setting, such an approach can turn into a real catastrophe for a woman, because male partners will pay attention to her feminine charms and will not take her seriously. Overly feminine women at business meetings do not take seriously men or other women. And this is a scientifically confirmed fact, although our words are heard and not too politically correct. We do not want to say that a business woman should be masculine. She just shouldn't send purely female signals. Do not wear short skirts and high-heeled shoes, avoid timid handshakes. Only in this way can you achieve true equality.

Women who send overly feminine signals in a business setting lose credibility.

In 2001, William Chaplin of the University of Alabama conducted a study of handshakes and found that extroverts shake hands firmly and powerfully, while timid, neurotic people never do. Chaplin also discovered that women open to new ideas are shaking hands very energetically. Men can firmly shake hands in any circumstances. Thus, women seeking to occupy a decent position and the business world, it makes sense to learn a strong handshake.