Lecture
The ways of verbal expression of the emotional state or attitude towards something are extremely diverse:
emotive-evaluative vocabulary and phraseology, for example, a fool, a fool, there are not enough stars from the sky;
naming emotions or feelings, for example, I worry, I’m confused; I am pleased with you;
a comparative or metaphorical description of emotions and feelings, for example, “There is no face on it”, “I do not find a place for myself”.
The following table lists examples of statements that contain a description of what the speaker feels, or what description is missing. Note that the manifestation of feelings using the description of the emotions of the speaker is less susceptible to misinterpretation on the part of the hearer.
Examples of statements
Expressing a feeling by describing your emotional state | Expression of feeling without describing your emotional state |
I'm confused. I am pleased to. I'm annoyed. | (Blushes and says nothing). |
I'm angry! I'm worried about this. I am offended by what you said. | (Suddenly falls silent in the middle of a conversation). |
I like her sense of humor. I respect her abilities and competence. I love her, but I feel that I should not talk about it. | She is a wonderful person. |
I'm so sad that I can't listen to this anymore. I am angry with myself. I'm mad at you. | Shut up !!! |
Communicating your own feelings and understanding the feelings of people around you is an extremely difficult task. The psychologist Wallen, in his Chrestomathy (2001), cites provisions that help the understanding that openness in many cases does not harm relations, but improves them.
Although such an exchange of views may cause irritation, resentment, tears, it should not be forced and should not contain an attempt to change another person.
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Communication theory
Terms: Communication theory